Based on the text by Bondarev Is it possible to imagine the modern world without a feeling of tragic loss (Unified State Examination in Russian). "Reading
Life modern man is unthinkable without literature, the role of the book cannot be overestimated. Writer Yuri Bondarev in his narration discusses the meaning of the printed word for every person.
The author suggests imagining that all the books suddenly disappeared. He compares this situation with a catastrophe, with the widespread disappearance of electricity. Using a number of examples given, Bondarev proves the importance and indispensability of books.
People need them no less than exact sciences: if the works of scientists explain to us the structure physical world that literature analyzes the human soul. The writer is sure that works of art occupy important place in life: they allow you to know yourself, teach you to comprehend others, be aware of the passage of time, and look for answers to exciting questions.
I completely share the author’s position. Indeed, the works of writers teach us to understand those around us, ourselves and the processes taking place. Almost every serious work reflects the features of the era, revealing its advantages and disadvantages. The literary word makes you think, can awaken your conscience, influence
on behavior.
For example, in “The Master and Margarita” M. A. Bulgakov describes the impression different people from the novel about Pontius Pilate created by the Master. The work made a tremendous impression on Margarita, but the literary community, out of fear of a forbidden topic, criticized the author’s brainchild. Critics understood what a powerful impression the novel could make on the readership, awakening critical thinking in it.
The effect of poetry on the human soul is spoken of in B. Vasiliev’s story “Tomorrow there was a war.” Yesenin’s poems forced Iskra to rethink his attitude towards deep feelings and experiences that were considered alien to the “builder of communism.” One can also recall “Vasily Terkin” by A. Tvardovsky, who inspired soldiers during short respites at the fronts.
Thus, literature not only brightens up leisure time, but also teaches people to be attentive to the world around them, helps them to understand themselves and modernity.
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This essay is a continuation of the previous one about the message “Don’t Feel”
There were interesting discussions in the comments, and I decided to expand on the topic in more detail.
Surely you have come across the opinion that:
“Are feelings really necessary? Or they only cause problems"
“I feel safer and calmer without feelings”
“I’d rather be insensitive than to suffer and suffer like this”
And indeed, when a person finds himself in a situation where feelings are too strong and unbearable, or when it is unsafe to express this or that feeling, especially if this situation lasts for a long time, he may decide “not to feel.”
Very often, such a decision is made in childhood - when the child finds himself in an emotionally unbearable situation, or when this or that feeling in the parental home is prohibited (in the first part there was a description of the exercise “You run into your parental home”)
Therefore, today we will talk about why feelings are needed and how you can learn to feel again.
About emotions and feelings
It is common to use both the word “emotion” and the word “feeling”. Are these concepts different?
Emotions and feelings vary in time and depth.
Emotions are situational, arise and pass quickly
Feelings are long lasting and deep.
For example:
You can love a person (this feeling, it lasts a long time)
And right now you may feel anger towards this person (this is an emotion)
Basic emotions and feelings
In psychology, basic emotions/feelings are identified - which are inherent in people of different levels of development and different cultures.
The list is slightly different in different directions.
For example, in transactional analysis there are 4 basic emotions:
joy
fear
anger
sadness
By the way, if you look at animals, animals can also experience these emotions. A cat or a dog can be happy, afraid, angry or sad.
There is another list of 7 basic emotions
Interest
Joy
Sadness
Anger (anger)
Fear
Disgust
Astonishment
Other emotions and feelings are “composite”, are based on basic emotions, as well as thoughts, beliefs, assessments, and so on.
For example, feelings of shame or guilt may be based on fear of rejection, assessments “I’m bad, there’s something wrong with me, I’m doing wrong,” beliefs “if I’m bad/do this, I’ll be rejected,” and thoughts “I urgently need to correct myself/my actions”
Who controls the feelings
Feelings and emotions are not directly controlled by consciousness.
They arise as a response to one or another life situation, when needs are met or not met.
What specific feeling will arise depends on the characteristics of the person himself.
In the same situation, one person may be afraid and another may be angry.
This may depend on congenital characteristics, as well as on decisions made in childhood - a person could decide that it is impossible to get angry and defend himself, it would be safer to hide and run away.
In childhood, a child “learns” from his parents - in what situations one can feel this or that. For example, he may learn to feel guilty or suffer - because this is what older family members did, sometimes for many generations.
What are feelings for, and isn’t it easier to do without them?
1. In order to feel alive. I have repeatedly heard from people who repress and forbid themselves feelings that they feel like robots, people-functions - who simply perform certain actions, and life seems to pass by.
2. To feel the joy of life. If a person forbids himself to be angry or sad, then the range of feelings decreases, and he ceases to experience joy and happiness. Life becomes gray and insipid, tasteless.
3. Feelings and emotions are important signals. They indicate that an important need is not being met and something is going wrong.
Living without feelings and emotions is like traveling through an unfamiliar city with your eyes closed.. Theoretically, traveling from point A to point B is possible. But there is no fullness of impressions, there is no joy from what you see, and you can get lost and go to the wrong place. In addition, you may miss something important or not notice a danger.
What to do, how to learn to feel again
Method 1. Acceptance and awareness
Don't fight emotions and feelings. If they exist, it means they are needed for something (even if at the level of consciousness it is not clear now why)
Instead of giving an assessment (right or wrong, good or bad emotion-feeling) - just let them be.
Give emotions-feelings space and time, observe them with acceptance, allow yourself to recognize and feel them.
Emotions and feelings are usually “reflected” in the body - as unpleasant sensations, tension. Most often in the face, hands, torso.
You can observe these sensations, and your emotions and feelings, without judging them in any way.
It’s important here not to rush to do something as soon as emotions and feelings arise, but to stay with them for a while, allow yourself to feel and live them.
While you are doing this, you may just understand what your needs are associated with these emotions and feelings.
I usually show my clients this way of observing:
1. Notice that there is an emotion-feeling. If possible, name it. For example, “I feel anxious right now.”
2. Pay attention to where the emotion-feeling is reflected in the body
3. Consciously observe it, directing attention to the area of the body where this emotion-feeling is reflected.
4. You can metaphorically direct your breath to this area of the body. Concentrating on your breathing helps you stay in the process and maintain awareness.
(I developed this method from the methods of Ericksonian hypnosis, psychosynthesis, body-oriented therapy and the direction of mindfulness)
When you stop fighting your emotions and feelings, you establish good contact with them.
If this is a short-lived emotion, then by observing and feeling, you can live it completely, and it will go away, making room for something else.
If this is a long-term feeling that occurs regularly, then you can understand what it indicates and find new options for action.
Method 2. Drawing and art therapy
You can draw your feelings. This will also be aimed at accepting and living feelings.
It's very easy to do this:
You can draw on a sheet of paper - A4 format works well
Or you can draw in a circle (mandala)
From materials you can take what is at hand: pencils, pastels, paints. Felt-tip pens and colored pens are not very good, but if you don’t have anything, then you can use them. You can even use a one-color pen or a simple pencil, if there is nothing else, but you want to express your feelings right now.
Choose a time and place where no one will distract you for 5-10 minutes, and draw your feeling on paper. It is better if it is an abstract drawing (without specific objects, symbols and shapes) - color spots, strokes, lines.
The material also matters.
For example, my client drew anger at her parents with colored pastels. She said that she wanted to press the pastel very hard, and in the process the pastel pencils often broke. And this also helped her express her feelings.
After you have drawn, you can tear the sheet and throw away the scraps, and symbolically put your feelings into this action in order to react to them.
What to do if feelings are flooded
The paradox is that if you fight these feelings and forbid yourself from them, then flooding will happen even faster.
When you observe your feelings or draw them, you become to some extent disidentified with them and stop completely immersing yourself in them. Because there is one part of you that draws or feels, and a second part that observes and realizes.
If you try to stop the “unpleasant” feeling, then it unwinds internal conflict and from this the tension only grows. You lose awareness, become a direct participant in the conflict, begin to scold yourself for the “wrong” feeling, fight with yourself, evaluate your feeling and yourself as “wrong, inappropriate” - and this makes you immerse yourself in the experience even more. For example, you may feel guilty that you are experiencing the wrong inappropriate feeling, which makes the condition even worse.
I invite you to discuss in the comments!
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what happens if a person loses all feelings?
- In 1983, a group of scientists conducted an unprecedented experiment within the walls of one of the scientific institutions. One of the scientists put forward a theory that the average person, having lost all feelings, will gain access to God. He believed that the five human senses blocked the sense of the universe and that without them, man could establish contact with God.
The only one who agreed to the experiments was an elderly man. As he stated: “I have nothing to lose.” To achieve the desired result, scientists performed a complex operation, separating his brain from the nerve endings leading to the sensory organs. Although the subject retained the ability to move freely, he lost the ability to see, hear, feel, smell and pain. Deprived of feeling and contact with the outside world, he was left alone with his thoughts and experiences. Scientists closely monitored his condition, and he only inarticulately expressed himself in abrupt phrases that he himself did not hear. After 4 days, the subject stated that he began to hear hissing, unintelligible voices. Scientists attributed this to incipient mental disorders and did not pay much attention to it.
Two days later, the man said that he communicated with his deceased wife, moreover, he could answer her. After this, most scientists abandoned further experiments. After a week of talking with the dead, the subject began to suffer, stating that they did not give him peace. Every time he was awake, he was disturbed by hundreds of voices that refused to leave him alone. He hit the wall, trying to create a feeling of pain.
He begged scientists to give him sleeping pills so that he could escape the voices in his head in his sleep. It only worked for three days, after which he began having violent, all-consuming nightmares. The man kept repeating incessantly that in his dreams he sees and hears dead people. Only the next day the test subject began to scream and scratch his blind eyes, hoping to somehow renew his feelings. Now he was hysterical and said that the voices of the dead deafened him and became hostile, telling him about the underworld and the end of the world. At one point, he shouted “no heaven, no forgiveness” for five hours straight. He constantly asked for euthanasia, but scientists were sure that he would soon come into contact with God. Another day later, the subject lost the ability to coherently reproduce sentences. After this, apparently completely losing his sense of adequacy and reason, he began to bite off the flesh from his hand. He was stopped and confined to bed. A couple of hours later, the test subject stopped struggling and screaming.
He stared blindly at the ceiling, and blind tears flowed from his eyes. He was losing a lot of fluid due to constant crying and scientists had to give him something to drink every 5 hours. Finally he turned his head to the side and, despite his blindness, made eye contact with one of the scientists for the first time. He whispered, “I spoke to God and he left us.” At the same moment, his breathing and heartbeat stopped and brain death occurred. The cause of death was never established.
Can a person live without feelings? This question arises in every person sooner or later. Should we replace emotions with reason? In the world you can find thousands of people who believe that life is worth living, including common sense, because it is calmer and more stable. Others, on the contrary, cannot imagine their life without constant bright outbursts of emotions. As always, the truth lies somewhere in the middle. Let's find out how to try to balance these two antipodes: rationality and emotionality?
Intelligence
It is common for every person to fear something and doubt something. A cool mind often “rescues” us: it protects us from tragedies, helps us comprehend difficult situations and come to a certain conclusion. Life without feelings protects us from disappointments, but also does not allow us to sincerely rejoice. Can a person live without feelings? Definitely cannot. That's why we are humans, to show emotions.
Another thing is that within us there is a constant struggle between reason and feelings. A person is not ideal; almost every day he has to think about what to do. Very often we react to a given situation, guided by generally accepted rules.
For example, if we are unfairly criticized by our boss, then, as a rule, we do not react very violently, but agree or calmly try to justify ourselves. In this scenario, reason wins, which awakens in us. Of course, feelings play a role. important role, but be able to control them if necessary - good quality.
Feelings
Can a person live without feelings? We are not robots, each of us constantly experiences a variety of emotions. Reason is given to people so that they can show emotions. Anger, joy, love, fear, sadness - who doesn’t know all these feelings? The characteristics are very broad and multifaceted. People just express them differently. Some people immediately throw out all their joy or anger on others, while others hide their emotions very deeply.
Nowadays, showing feelings is not considered “fashionable”. If a guy sings songs under his beloved’s balcony, then this will most likely be called eccentricity, rather than a manifestation of the most sincere feelings. We have become afraid to show our feelings even to the people closest to us. Very often, in pursuit of a prosperous life, we forget about our emotional state. Many people really try to hide their feelings as far as possible. IN modern society It is believed that the ability to show emotions is a sign of weakness. A person who experiences feelings will always be more vulnerable than a person for whom everything is based on calculation. But at the same time, an emotional person can be happier than a rationalist.
Different emotions can bring both great happiness and excruciating pain. Can a person live without feelings? It can't and shouldn't! If you can feel, then you live interesting life. Know how to rejoice simple things, don’t get upset over little things and look at the world with optimism. If you can be “friends” with your emotional and rational “I”, then you will definitely achieve harmony and happiness.
Can a person live without feelings? This question arises in every person sooner or later. Should we replace emotions with reason? In the world you can find thousands of people who believe that life is worth living, including common sense, because it is calmer and more stable. Others, on the contrary, cannot imagine their life without constant bright outbursts of emotions. As always, the truth lies somewhere in the middle. Let's find out how to try to balance these two antipodes: rationality and emotionality? 
Intelligence
It is common for every person to fear something and doubt something. A cool mind often “rescues” us: it protects us from tragedies, helps us comprehend difficult situations and come to a certain conclusion. Life without feelings protects us from disappointments, but also does not allow us to sincerely rejoice. Can a person live without feelings? Definitely cannot. That's why we are humans, to show emotions.
Another thing is that within us there is a constant struggle between reason and feelings. A person is not ideal; almost every day he has to think about what to do. Very often we react to a given situation, guided by generally accepted rules.
For example, if we are unfairly criticized by our boss, then, as a rule, we do not react very violently, but agree or calmly try to justify ourselves. In this scenario, reason wins, which awakens in us the instinct of self-preservation. Of course, feelings play an important role in a person’s life, but being able to control them if necessary is a good quality.
Feelings
Can a person live without feelings? We are not robots, each of us constantly experiences a variety of emotions. Reason is given to people so that they can show emotions. Anger, joy, love, fear, sadness - who doesn’t know all these feelings? The characteristics of human feelings are very broad and multifaceted. People just express them differently. Some people immediately throw out all their joy or anger on others, while others hide their emotions very deeply.
Nowadays, showing feelings is not considered “fashionable”. If a guy sings songs under his beloved’s balcony, then this will most likely be called eccentricity, rather than a manifestation of the most sincere feelings. We have become afraid to show our feelings even to the people closest to us. Very often, in pursuit of a prosperous life, we forget about our emotional state. Many people really try to hide their feelings as far as possible. In modern society, it is believed that the ability to show emotions is a sign of weakness. A person who experiences feelings will always be more vulnerable than a person for whom everything is based on calculation. But at the same time, an emotional person can be happier than a rationalist. 
Different emotions can bring both great happiness and excruciating pain. Can a person live without feelings? It can't and shouldn't! If you know how to feel, then you are living an interesting life. Learn to enjoy simple things, not be upset by little things, and look at the world with optimism. If you can be “friends” with your emotional and rational “I”, then you will definitely achieve harmony and happiness.