How to tell it for the first time to confession. Confession is important in a person’s life

This list— the list is designed for people starting church life and wanting to repent before God.

When preparing for confession, write down the sins that convict your conscience from the list. If there are many of them, you need to start from the most serious mortals.
You can receive communion only with the blessing of the priest. Repentance TO GOD does not imply an indifferent listing of one’s bad deeds, BUT A SINCERE CONDEMNATION OF ONE’S SINNINESS AND A DECISION TO CORRECT!

List of sins for confession

I (name) sinned before GOD:

• weak faith (doubt about His existence).
• I have neither love nor proper fear for God, so I rarely confess and receive communion (which brought my soul to petrified insensibility towards God).
• I rarely attend Church on Sundays and holidays (work, trade, entertainment on these days).
• I don’t know how to repent, I don’t see any sins.
• I do not remember death and do not prepare to appear at the Judgment of God (Memory of death and future judgment helps to avoid sin).

Sinned :

• I DO NOT thank God for His mercies.
• Not by submission to the will of God (I want everything to be my way). Out of pride I rely on myself and people, and not on God. Attributing success to yourself rather than to God.
• Fear of suffering, impatience of sorrows and illnesses (they are allowed by God to cleanse the soul from sin).
• Murmuring at the cross of life (fate), at people.
• Cowardice, despondency, sadness, accusing God of cruelty, despair of salvation, desire (attempt) to commit suicide.

Sinned :

• Being late and early care from the church.
• Inattention during the service (to reading and singing, talking, laughing, dozing...). Walking around the temple needlessly, pushing and being rude.
• Out of pride, he left the sermon criticizing and condemning the priest.
• In female impurity she dared to touch the shrine.

Sinned :

• out of laziness I don’t read the morning papers and evening prayers(entirely from the prayer book), I am shortening them. I pray absentmindedly.
• She prayed with her head uncovered, having enmity towards her neighbor. A careless depiction of the sign of the cross on oneself. Not by wearing a cross.
• With irreverent veneration of St. Church icons and relics.
• To the detriment of prayer, reading the Gospel, the Psalter and spiritual literature, I watched TV (Those who fight God through films teach people to violate God’s commandment about chastity before marriage, adultery, cruelty, sadism, damage the mental health of young people. They are instilled in them through “Harry Potter...” unhealthy interest in magic, sorcery and are quietly drawn into disastrous communication with the devil. In the media, this iniquity before God is presented as something positive, in color and in a romantic way. Christian! Avoid sin and save yourself and your children for Eternity!!! ).
• Cowardly silence when people blasphemed in front of me, shame to be baptized and confess the Lord in front of people (this is one of the types of renunciation of Christ). Blasphemy against God and all sacred things.
• Wearing shoes with crosses on the soles. Using newspapers for everyday needs... where it is written about God...
• Called animals after people: “Vaska”, “Mashka”. He spoke about God without reverence and humility.

Sinned :

• dared to approach Communion without proper preparation (without reading the canons and prayers, concealing and belittling sins in confession, in enmity, without fasting and prayers of gratitude...).
• He did not spend the days of Communion sacredly (in prayer, reading the Gospel..., but indulged in entertainment, overeating, sleeping a lot, idle talk...).

Sinned :

• violation of fasts, as well as Wednesday and Friday (By fasting on these days, we honor the suffering of Christ).
• I don’t (always) pray before eating, working and after (After eating and working, a prayer of gratitude is read).
• Satiety in food and drink, drunkenness.
• Secret eating, delicacy (addiction to sweets).
• Ate the blood of animals (bloodweed...). (Forbidden by God Leviticus 7,2627; 17, 1314, Acts 15, 2021,29). On a fast day, the festive (funeral) table was modest.
• He commemorated the deceased with vodka (this is paganism and does not agree with Christianity).

Sinned :

• idle talk (empty talk about the vanity of life...).
• Telling and listening to dirty jokes.
• By condemning people, priests and monks (but I don’t see my sins).
• By listening and retelling gossip and blasphemous jokes (about God, the Church and clergy). (By this means temptation was sown through ME, and the name of God was blasphemed among people.)
• Remembering the name of God in vain (unnecessarily, in empty conversations, jokes).
• Lies, deceit, failure to fulfill promises made to God (people).
• Foul language, swearing (this is blasphemy Mother of God) swearing with mention evil spirits(the evil demons summoned in conversations will harm us).
• Slander, spreading bad rumors and gossip, disclosing other people's sins and weaknesses.
• I listened to slander with pleasure and agreement.
• Out of pride, he humiliated his neighbors with ridicule (jigs), stupid jokes... With immoderate laughter, laughter. He laughed at the beggars, the crippled, the misfortune of others... God-fighting, a false oath, false testimony in court, the acquittal of criminals and the condemnation of the innocent.

Sinned :

• laziness, no desire to work (living at the expense of parents), the search for bodily peace, laziness in bed, the desire to enjoy a sinful and luxurious life.
• Smoking (among the American Indians, smoking tobacco had a ritual meaning of worshiping demonic spirits. A Christian who smokes is a traitor to God, a demon worshiper and a suicide is harmful to health). Drug use.
• Listening to pop and rock music (singing human passions, arouses base feelings).
• Addiction to gambling and entertainment (cards, dominoes, computer games, TV, cinemas, discos, cafes, bars, restaurants, casinos...). (The godless symbolism of the cards, when playing or telling fortunes, is intended to blasphemously mock the suffering of Christ the Savior. And games destroy the psyche of children. By shooting and killing, they become aggressive, prone to cruelty and sadism, with all the ensuing consequences for parents).

Sinned :

• corrupted his soul by reading and viewing (in books, magazines, films...) erotic shamelessness, sadism, immodest games, (A person corrupted by vices reflects the qualities of a demon, not God), dances, he himself danced, (They led to the martyrdom of John the Baptist, after which dancing for Christians is a mockery of the memory of the Prophet).
• Delight in prodigal dreams and recollection of past sins. Not by removing yourself from sinful encounters and temptation.
• Lustful views and liberties (immodesty, hugs, kisses, unclean touching of the body) with persons of the other sex.
• Fornication (sexual intercourse before marriage). Prodigal perversions (handjob, poses).
• Sins of Sodomy (homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, incest (fornication with relatives).

Leading men into temptation, she shamelessly dressed in short skirts and with SLICES, trousers, shorts, tight-fitting and see-through clothes (this violated God’s commandment about appearance women. She must dress beautifully, but within the framework of Christian shame and conscience.

A Christian woman should be an image of God, not a God-fighting one, with her hair cropped and naked, repainted, with a clawed paw instead of a human hand, the image of Satan) cut her hair, dyed her hair... In this form, without respecting the shrine, she dared to enter the temple of God.

Participation in “beauty” competitions, fashion models, masquerades (malanka, goat driving, Halloween...), as well as in dances with prodigal actions.

He was immodest in his gestures, body movements, and gait.

Swimming, sunbathing and nudity in the presence of persons of the other sex (contrary to Christian chastity).

Temptation to sin. Selling your body, pimping, renting out premises for fornication.

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Sinned :

• adultery (cheating in marriage).
• Not married. Lustful intemperance in marital relations (during fasting, Sundays, holidays, pregnancy, on days of female impurity).
• Perversions in married life (postures, oral, anal fornication).
• Wanting to live for your own pleasure and avoiding life difficulties, was protected from conceiving children.
• The use of “contraceptives” (coil, pills do not prevent conception, but kill the child in early stage). Killed his children (abortions).
• Advising (forcing) others to have an abortion (men, with tacit consent, or forcing their wives... to have an abortion are also child killers. Doctors who perform abortions are murderers, and assistants are accomplices).

Sinned :

• He ruined the souls of children, preparing them only for earthly life (he did not teach them about God and faith, did not instill in them the love of church and home prayer, fasting, humility, obedience.
• Didn’t develop a sense of duty, honor, responsibility...
• I didn’t look at what they do, what they read, who they are friends with, how they behave).
• Punished them too harshly (taking out anger, not to correct them, calling them names, cursing them).
• He seduced children with his sins (intimate relationships in front of them, swearing, foul language, watching immoral television programs).

Sinned :

• joint prayer or transition to a schism (Kiev Patriarchate, UAOC, Old Believers...), union, sect. (Prayer with schismatics and heretics leads to excommunication from the Church: 10, 65, Apostolic Canons).
• Superstition (belief in dreams, omens...).
• Appeal to psychics, “grandmothers” (pouring wax, swinging eggs, draining fear...).
• He desecrated himself with urine therapy (in the rituals of Satanists, the use of urine and feces has a blasphemous meaning. Such “treatment” is a vile desecration and a devilish mockery of Christians), the use of what was “said” by sorcerers... Fortune telling on cards, divination (for what?). I feared sorcerers more than God. Coding (from what?).

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Passion for Eastern religions, occultism, Satanism (specify what). By attending sectarian, occult... meetings.

Yoga, meditation, dousing according to Ivanov (it is not the dousing itself that is condemned, but Ivanov’s teaching, which leads to the worship of him and nature, and not God). Eastern martial arts (worship of the spirit of evil, teachers, and occult teachings about the disclosure of “inner capabilities” leads to communication with demons, possession...).

Reading and storage of occult literature prohibited by the Church: magic, palmistry, horoscopes, dream books, prophecies of Nostradamus, literature of Eastern religions, the teachings of Blavatsky and the Roerichs, Lazarev’s “Diagnostics of Karma”, Andreev’s “Rose of the World”, Aksenov, Klizovsky, Vladimir Megre, Taranov, Sviyazh , Vereshchagina, Garafina Makoviy, Asaulyak...

(The Orthodox Church warns that the writings of these and other occult authors have nothing in common with the teachings of Christ the Savior. A person through occultism, entering into deep communication with demons, falls away from God and destroys his soul, and mental disorders will be due retribution for pride and arrogance flirting with demons).

By forcing (advice) others to contact them and do it.

Sinned :

• theft, sacrilege (theft of church property).
• Love of money (addiction to money and wealth).
• Non-payment of debts (wages).
• Greed, stinginess for alms and the purchase of spiritual books... (and I spend generously on whims and entertainment).
• Self-interest (using someone else's property, living at someone else's expense...). Wanting to get rich, he gave money at interest.
• Trade in vodka, cigarettes, drugs, contraceptives, immodest clothing, porn... (this helped the demon to destroy himself and people, an accomplice to their sins). He talked about it, weighed it down, passed off a bad product as a good one...

Sinned :

• pride, envy, flattery, deceit, insincerity, hypocrisy, man-pleasing, suspicion, gloating.
• Forcing others to sin (lie, steal, spy, eavesdrop, snitch, drink alcohol...).

The desire for fame, respect, gratitude, praise, championship... By doing good for show. Boasting and admiring oneself. Showing off in front of people (wit, appearance, abilities, clothes...).

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Sinned :

• disobedience to parents, elders and superiors, insulting them.
• Whims, stubbornness, contradiction, self-will, self-justification.
• Laziness towards studying.
• Negligent care for elderly parents, relatives... (left them without supervision, food, money, medicine..., put them in a nursing home...).

Sinned :

• pride, resentment, rancor, hot temper, anger, vindictiveness, hatred, irreconcilable enmity.
• With arrogance and impudence (climbed out of turn, pushed).
• Cruelty to animals,
• He insulted family members and was the cause of family scandals.
• Not carrying joint works on raising children and maintaining the household, parasitism, drinking money, sending children to an orphanage...
• Practicing martial arts and sports (professional sports damage health and develop in the soul pride, vanity, a sense of superiority, contempt, thirst for enrichment...), for the sake of fame, money, robbery (racketeering).
• Rough treatment of neighbors, causing them harm (what?).
• Assault, beating, murder.
• Not protecting the weak, the beaten, women from violence...
• Violation of the rules traffic, driving while intoxicated... (thus endangering people’s lives).

Sinned :

• careless attitude towards work (public position).
• He used his social position (talents...) not for the glory of God and the benefit of people, but for personal gain.
• Harassment of subordinates. Giving and accepting (extorting) bribes (which could lead to harm to public and private tragedies).
• Embezzled state and collective property.
• Having a leadership position, he did not care about suppressing the teaching in schools of immoral subjects and non-Christian customs (corrupting the morality of the people).
• Did not provide assistance in spreading Orthodoxy and suppressing the influence of sects, sorcerers, psychics...
• He was seduced by their money and rented out premises to them (which contributed to the destruction of people’s souls).
• He did not protect church shrines, did not provide assistance in the construction and repair of churches and monasteries...

Laziness towards everyone good deed(did not visit lonely, sick, prisoners...).

In matters of life, he did not consult with the priest and elders (which led to irreparable mistakes).

Gave advice without knowing whether it pleased God. With a partial love for people, things, activities... He seduced those around him with his sins.

I justify my sins with everyday needs, illness, weakness, and that no one taught us to believe in God (but we ourselves were not interested in this).

Seduced people into disbelief. Visited the mausoleum, atheist events...

A cold and insensitive confession. I sin deliberately, trampling on my convicting conscience. There is no firm determination to correct your sinful life. I repent that I offended the Lord with my sins, I sincerely regret this and will try to improve.

Indicate other sins that (a) committed.

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Note! As for the possible temptation from the sins cited here, it is true that fornication is vile, and we must speak about it carefully.

The Apostle Paul says: “Fornication and all uncleanness and covetousness must not even be mentioned among you” (Eph. 5:3). However, through television, magazines, advertising... he has entered the lives of even the youngest so much that prodigal sins are not considered a sin by many. Therefore, we must talk about this in confession and call everyone to repentance and correction.

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priest Dimitry Galkin

V. Ponomarev

Archimandrite Lazar

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Archpriest M. Shpolyansky

Ekaterina Orlova

Hieromonk Evstafiy (Khalimankov)

Hieromonk Agapius (Golub)

Preparation for Confession- test of conscience before.

Unlike a magical rite of purification, which allows for blind execution of the instructions of a “sacred” sorcerer or magician, the Sacrament of Repentance implies the presence of faith, awareness of personal guilt before God and others, and a sincere and conscious desire to free oneself from the power of sin.
The Sacrament of Repentance cannot be approached mechanically. Forgiveness and remission of sins is not a legal act of declaring a sinner innocent. Everyone who has confessed at least once in their life could pay attention to what prayer is being read over them: “reconcile and unite the saints of your Church.” Through the Sacrament of Repentance, a person is reconciled with, restores himself as a member.

Repentance for sin consists of 3 stages: Repent of the sin as soon as you have committed it; remember him at the end of the day and again ask God for forgiveness for him; confess it in the Sacrament of Repentance (Confession) and receive permission from this sin.

It is necessary to distinguish from the Sacrament of Penance:
- confidential spiritual conversation with a priest;
- a repentant conversation before (not mandatory).

Where and when can I go to confession?

You can confess anywhere on any day of the year, but it is generally accepted to confess at a scheduled time or by agreement with. The person confessing must be baptized.

It is better not to come to your first confession or confession after a long break on Sundays or days of great church holidays, when churches are full of people praying and there is a long line for confession. It is also advisable to come to the Sacrament in advance.

The First Confession should not be combined with the First Communion in order to fully experience the impressions of this great event in our lives. However, this is only advice.

How to prepare for Confession?

When preparing for confession, unlike preparation for the Sacrament of Communion, the church charter does not require any special or special prayer rules.

Before going to confession it is appropriate:
— Focus on prayers of repentance.
- Carefully examine thoughts, thoughts, deeds; note, if possible, all your sinful traits (as an auxiliary aid, also include those accusations that came from relatives, friends, and other people).
— If possible, ask for forgiveness from those who were offended by sin, offended by inattention, indifference.
— Consider the plan for confession, and, if necessary, prepare questions for the priest.
— In case of serious sins or rare confessions, additional fasting may be recommended.

— Sins are confessed from the moment of the last confession; if they have never been confessed, then from the moment of Baptism.
— In the Sacrament, all sins are forgiven, with the exception of those intentionally hidden. If you forgot to name some minor sin, then don’t worry. The sacrament is called the Sacrament Repentance, but not " The sacrament of listing all sins committed".
- You need to confess first of all what you are ashamed of! Tactically, confession should always be very substantive and specific. You can’t repent of being “proud”—it’s pointless. Because after your repentance, nothing changes in our lives. We can repent of having looked arrogantly or said some words of condemnation to a specific person. Because, having repented of this, next time we will think whether it is worth doing this. You cannot repent “in general,” in the abstract. A substantive confession allows you to simultaneously draw up a plan to combat certain passions. At the same time, pettiness should be avoided; there is no need to list a large number of sins of the same type.
— Do not use crafty generalizations. For example, under the phrase treated one's neighbor unfairly can be understood as both involuntary grief and murder.
— There is no need to describe sexual sins in detail, it is enough to name them. For example: sinned (,).
— When preparing for and during Confession, self-justification should be avoided.
— If you do not feel your sins, it is recommended to turn to God with “ Lord, grant me to see my sins».

Is it possible to write down sins so as not to forget them at confession?

What to do if you do not consider yourself a sinful person? Or if the sins are common, like everyone else’s.

You should compare yourself first of all with, then your own spiritual health will not look so rosy.
A clear conscience is a sign of a short memory...

Is it worth confessing if you are likely to commit some sins again?

Is it worth washing if you know for sure that you will get dirty again? Repentance is a desire to be reborn, it does not begin with confession and does not end with it, it is a matter of a lifetime. Repentance is not only a listing of sins before the testimony of a priest, it is a state of hating sin and avoiding it.
Repentance should not just be an emotional release, it is a systematic, meaningful work on oneself, with the goal of becoming closer to God in one’s qualities, becoming like Him in . Orthodoxy has an inexhaustible ascetic heritage, compiled by holy ascetics, which must be studied for proper organization.
Our goal is not just to be cleansed of sins and passions, but to acquire. It’s not enough, for example, to stop stealing, you need to learn mercy.

Gross sins have already been overcome and at each confession one has to repeat almost the same sins. How to get out of this vicious circle?

Bishop Tikhon (Shevkunov): “For people who have been churched for a long time, the “list” of sins, as a rule, is approximately the same from confession to confession. There may be a feeling of some kind of formal spiritual life. But at home we often sweep the floor, and, thank God, we don’t have to rake out the Augean stables every time. This is just not a problem. The trouble is that you begin to notice how the lives of some Christians become more and more boring over the years. But it should be the other way around: it should become more and more rich and more and more joyful.”

However, you don’t need to be complacent about the fact that you can’t overcome all sins; you just need to realize that not all sins and passions can be overcome instantly. This is a systemic problem, the solution of which is .

I have very difficult life circumstances, I’m afraid that a simple priest will not understand me.

The Lord will understand in any case. There is a good story about this: .

God wanted us to repent not before the sinless Angels, but before people. We should be ashamed of committing sin, not repenting. If a person sincerely hated his sins, then he will not be ashamed to confess them to the priest.

Sometimes you can notice that some parishioners, with amazing pedantry and scrupulousness confessing to the slightest violations of church rules or disrespect for sacred things, with the same amazing constancy remain rather harsh and unpeaceful in their relations with the people around them.
Priest Philip

The importance of confession in church. List of sins and preparation for confession.

Human life is not only about daily activities, family and material goals. This is also a way of realizing oneself, one’s connection with God.

In every religious tradition you will find the Lord's instructions governing the relationships between all beings on the planet and in the Universe.

So it turns out that we are drowning in:

• routine
• emotions
• races for survival and better life in terms of material comfort
• pleasures and desires to have at least something in this life

We forget that we rent from God everything that surrounds us and that comes by fate. Only our landlord unconditionally and boundlessly loves us, is merciful and supportive of any of our tricks, like a loving father to the mischief of his children.

We can give him the greatest satisfaction if we turn our faces to him, remember our connection, regularly pray sincerely and come to confession.

We’ll talk about the last point in more detail in this article.

How to prepare for confession for the first time?

the girl came to ask the priest how to prepare for confession

Confession is the relief of the soul through sincere, humble pronouncement in words of one’s bad deeds that contradict the principles of life indicated in the Holy Scriptures.

If you have never been to confession, and at this moment you decide to close this gap and sincerely repent of your sins before God, use some tips:

• find a temple/church that makes you feel peaceful and relaxed inside
• find out its operating hours - when services, confessions and communions are held
• choose a day when the flow of people is least, or talk to the priest and ask him to appoint you a day and time for confession. If you don’t have enough spirit and strength to immediately repent of what you have done, ask the priest for help. He will set a time for a spiritual conversation with you and prepare you for confession
• take a notebook and pen, write down everything you are ready to repent of
• write only about the most serious things. For example, you don’t have to remember that you broke your fast or knitted on a big holiday, because similar actions tend to be repeated
• speak simply and clearly, without trying to clothe your actions in church words
• if you are very far from understanding the types of sins, read the Bible, the 10 commandments. Here are simply and succinctly presented those types of actions that are considered sinful and contrary to God's plan for living beings to live with each other
• buy at church shop little books that list the main sins. However, use this advice only as a last resort. Because there is nothing more important than your sincerity during confession, and the Lord resides in the heart of every person all the time and knows much more about you than you tell the priest during confession
• before coming to church you must be wearing pectoral cross and clothing accepted for wearing by a Christian

Preparing for confession: list

the priest prays for the penitent during confession

Before coming to confession, it is appropriate to take time to prepare. You go deep into yourself, remembering what you said, did and thought about other people or God.

A good practice would be to write down everything that you are ready to sincerely repent of in confession, namely:

• the gravest mortal sins are apostasy from one's religious tradition, murder and adultery, or illicit sex
• Serious destructive behavior - theft, deception, intense anger and hatred towards other people and God
• actions, words and thoughts directed against your neighbor, that is, any person you meet by fate
• words, thoughts, actions directed against God and holy persons
• remember only your actions without judging other people and evaluating their lives

If you have never been to confession for a very long time or have never been to confession and during this time the gravest sins have accumulated, before coming to church for repentance, fast, read prayers of repentance, and perform penances. Find out in more detail from your confessor what actions you should take and for how long.

What to say in confession?

Father helps during confession to name sins correctly

Before coming to the temple, think, realize and accept your imperfection in the form of actions, thoughts and words directed against or to the detriment of other people and beings.

During confession, you feel humility and responsibility for not repeating sins in the future.

• Tell the priest only about your actions, do not evaluate other people
• Avoid long detailed stories about a specific situation
• Speak simply without excuses or explanations of the motives for your actions and words
• Don’t get caught up in thinking that your story is being evaluated by the priest. Firstly, this is a sign of pride and exaltation of oneself over others, and secondly, the priest, during his practice, listened to many repentant speeches from other people. It’s difficult to surprise him with anything, and he has a different task during hearing confession

What should the priest say in front of the icons in church?

• about the gravest mortal sins
• about the strong negative emotions to neighbors
• repent of those actions that you unintentionally forgot and therefore did not say out loud

What sins to name in confession: a short list

Holy Bible on the altar to perform the sacrament of confession

Before confession, re-read or remember the 10 commandments that the Lord bequeathed to us. They will become a guide, a hint and a measure of all the actions you have committed.

A brief list of sins voiced in confession looks like this:

• Fornication is watching and listening to videos with erotica, physical infidelity for those who are married, life in a civil marriage
• Gluttony is a passion for satisfying the hunger of the body and tongue.
• The love of money is the race for money, placing money on a pedestal and the first place in life, instead of family and relatives
• Anger - as a quality of character, the desire to control the lives and actions of other people
• Dejection - any type of laziness, especially in performing one's daily duties
• Sadness - prolonged blues, regrets about past days and events
• Vanity - the desire for fame, the desire to possess material goods and property
• Pride is one of the most common sins of modern man. This is putting oneself on a pedestal, lack of sensitivity to the life of another person, voluntary and involuntary humiliation of surrounding people, animals and other living beings

How to name sins in confession? Just a list of sins

woman in front of the altar preparing for confession to the priest

As described in the previous section, there are eight main passions that plague humanity. But just listing them during confession will not give any result. And the priest, as a mediator, will not understand what the sinfulness was and what you repent of, and you will not experience relief in your soul.

Therefore, remember and simply talk about your specific actions, thoughts and words.

First of all, remember and pronounce sins:

• apostasy, doubt in the power of God, atheism
• murders, including abortions even forced for medical reasons
• fornication and betrayal. By the way, any religious tradition condemns civil marriage or cohabitation. Although modern man practices this form of relationship

How to call the sin of masturbation in confession?

girl with a ready-made record of her sins in confession

Each sin has decodings and names of its different forms.

This is how handjob happens:

• natural - fornication, adultery
• unnatural - malakia, same-sex contacts, relationships with animals and similar perversions

Fornication is called:

• lustful looks at other women/men
• sexual contacts between unmarried people
• various intimate touches of another person’s body

Adultery is the sins of a husband or wife with other people.

Malakia is the name given to sexually satisfying oneself without the help of anyone.

To understand this issue in more detail, read the book of St. Ignatius Brianchaninov, vol. 1, ch. "The Eight Major Passions with Their Divisions and Industries."

Human life in the material world is associated with emotions, thoughts and actions that, to one degree or another, affect and violate the interests of other people. Remembering that we are all souls and after returning to spiritual world We deeply repent of what we did during our life on earth, but we are no longer able to change anything, come to church more often and confess to the Holy Father. Learn to forgive all insults to others, pray and may God protect you and your family!

Video: preparing for confession, what sins to name?

How to confess? What to say in confession? Are there any rules of conduct for this sacrament? You will learn about all this by reading our article.

At confession you need to repent, listing your sins. Sometimes, when they come to confession, they begin to tell something like this: “I came home yesterday, I was met by my husband, who, as always, was drunk, I reprimanded him and he began to shout at me, I got angry and hit him in the face. Of course, I did the wrong thing. But what could I do?..” This is not a confession. It is necessary that confession be repentance, and not a story about your life, and even with an attempt to justify your sins.

Although there are people who, in their simplicity, do not know how to repent otherwise and, of course, their confessor will accept their confession in this form, it would still be more correct to say this: “I’m angry, I’m very irritable, I’m against my husband when he misbehaved, she got angry and hit him in the face. I really regret this, I repent. I asked him for forgiveness and I promise God that I will never do this again.” This is what I think a correct confession would sound like.

People often write a lot in their notes and talk about something in too much detail, which is not entirely correct. There is another opposite, also incorrect, when a person simply lists his sins in separate words: “I sinned through vanity, despondency, irritation...” “I broke my fast, I had bad thoughts,” children say “I behaved badly...” What does “vanity” mean? ? What does "irritation" mean? What means " bad thoughts"? What does “behaved badly” mean? No need to say in general terms about the passion that operates in you, it acts in everyone, but about how this passion manifests itself in you. For example, it would be more correct to say not “I was annoyed with my daughter,” but “I humiliated my daughter, called her bad words, hit her...” Or, for example, pride... How does it manifest itself, your pride? Do you humiliate other people, look down on everyone, have you been rude to someone, wanting to humiliate him? That is, confession should not be a detailed account of all the circumstances of a particular case, but should be repentance for specific sins, but, on the other hand, these sins should not be denoted by one word.

Some modern people have a desire to find exact names for all their sins, while others painfully seek to find out what other sins there are that they do not know about. Some, for example, ask, what is “money-grabbing”? What is “bad profitability”? What is...? It seems to me that this is wrong; sins should be called by the words that exist in the modern Russian language. When we pray, read the morning and evening rule, then we use the words of the holy fathers, we borrow their images, and this is correct, since we learn the language of the saints, we learn the right relationship with God, but when we repent, it seems to me that we must still repent in our own words. It must be said, for example, that you did not sin through greed, but, say, ingratiating yourself with someone in order to get money, or that you did good, wanting to be answered in kind...

We know that there are eight passions, that there are commandments, and we need to repent of all our exposure to these passions, all violations of these commandments.

Different sins need to be repented in different ways. There is a kind of sin, unclean, nasty, for which you do not need to repent in detail, but at the same time you need to let the priest know what happened to you, because often these sins are spoken about only in general terms, hiding behind them a terrible distortion of the relationship between a man and a woman . You can’t just say, “I have a lust.” It is still necessary to explain how it manifests itself. There is no need to remember the details of these nasty sins, but it is necessary to say so that the priest understands the extent of this sin. Having repented, on the contrary, I need to remember that I have this evil passion in me, avoid situations where it can manifest itself, but drive away memories of the sins I have committed. But about the sins of insane pride, vanity, theft, humiliation of other people - we must definitely remember and even bring them to mind, especially when we have vain thoughts.

When going to confession to their confessor, many believers ask themselves questions: how to confess correctly, what to say to the priest? This is especially of interest to those who are going to repentance for the first time. Of course, this is very exciting, because a person must repent of all mortal sins. But after Father forgives all sins, my soul becomes light and free.

Confession is often called the second baptism. Having been baptized for the first time, the believer is freed from original sin. And a person who has repented removes from himself the sins committed in life after baptism. Man is a sinner; throughout his life, unrighteous deeds move him further and further from God. To get closer to the saint, you need to accept the sacrament of confession or repentance.

Salvation of the soul - the main objective confessing. Only in repentance is the sinner reunited with the Heavenly Father. Despite the fact that troubles and sad moments happen in the life of every Christian, he should not complain, grumble about fate and be despondent. This is one of the most serious sins.

To prepare for confession, you need to think carefully about everything and do the following:

• forgive all your offenders and, if possible, make peace with them;
• ask for forgiveness yourself from everyone you might offend by word or deed;
• stop gossiping and judging others for their actions;
• stop watching entertainment programs and magazines;
• drive away all obscene thoughts from yourself;
• study spiritual literature;
• 3 days before the sacrament you need to eat only lean food;
• attend services in the temple.

Children under 7 years of age and those who have just been baptized are not subject to confession, and women who are menstruating on this day and young mothers who have not had another 40 days since giving birth are also not allowed.

As soon as you arrive at the temple, you will see that believers have gathered for confession. You should turn to them, look at everyone and say: “Forgive me, a sinner!” To this the parishioners should answer: “God will forgive, and we forgive.”

After this, you need to approach the confessor, bowing your head in front of the lectern, put a cross on yourself and bow. Now we should begin confession. It may happen that the priest asks you to kiss the cross and the Bible. You must do everything he says.

What sins should you tell a clergyman about?

If this is not the first time you have repented, there is no need to talk about previously committed sins. You should only mention those that you made after the previous confession.

The main sins committed by man.

1. Sins against the Heavenly Father. These include pride, renunciation of the church and the Almighty, violation of the 10 commandments, false prayer, unworthy behavior during worship, passion for fortune telling or magicians, thoughts of suicide.
2. Sins against one's neighbor. These are grievances, anger, anger, indifference, slander. Mean jokes directed at others.
3. Sins against yourself. Dejection, melancholy. Games for money, passion for material values. Smoking, alcoholism, gluttony.

If you truly consciously repent and repent, God will forgive all sins. Remember the main 10 commandments and think about whether you have broken them. You can’t hide anything or not say anything. Most often, the priest will listen to you and forgive you your sins. Sometimes he will ask you to elaborate on a particular case.

At the beginning of the conversation, the priest will ask: “In what way have you sinned before the Lord?” If you don't know the language of the Bible, you can start confessing in your own words. The main thing is that they come from the heart.

Finally, you must answer all the questions your confessor asks you. Do you repent of what you did? Have you decided to live according to the commandments and not commit sins in the future?

After your answers, the priest will cover you with a piece of holy clothing called the stole. He will speak over you and tell you what to do next. You can take communion, or the priest will recommend coming to confession again.

Having decided to confess, first of all you need to turn to your clergyman, who will reveal to you all the nuances of this sacrament. Only in this case you will not worry about how to confess correctly, what to say to the priest. Come to confession with a pure heart and tell without hiding about all the sins you have committed. Only then will the Lord be merciful and grant you forgiveness.